Call Now Many of our daughters were wild and wily creatures once. They boldly exclaimed their desires, their opinions, and their dreams. They danced easily and sang or read aloud before groups of adults, eager for our praise and anxious for our attention. They appeared happy in their bodies and excited by what they could do with them. At around eleven or twelve years old, our bright shining daughters grew quieter.
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I get these awkward questions sometimes. This friend has a daughter approaching puberty. She attempts to phrase the question, the one about how to keep her daughter from being like me when I was in my teens. And what was I like, what is so bad about being like me? I was the girl who guys knew they could get a piece of if they tried.
When my girls were little, they were content to wear old dance costumes and be "princesses" for Halloween. Then, as they got a bit older, everything had to be a "scary-something": a scary bride, a scary doll, a scary witch. It was pretty easy to just add a little powder to make a white face and add a trickle of fake blood down the corners of their little mouths. I always hated the scary costumes, but it was better than the alternatives available for their age now. A slutty nurse, a slutty police officer, a slutty Raggedy Ann doll -- almost every costume of every character you can think of that is available to purchase is provocative. And the fact that this has become the norm just irritates me even more. I totally get that teenage girls often want to look "pretty" -- I am a woman after all -- but doesn't that take away from what Halloween is supposed to be all about?
All of this has led to a big question: Why? Why do so many women agree to unwanted sex? One answer is that their conditioning starts young. In a December study of sexting among to year-old girls, Sara E. Thomas of Northwestern University analyzed stories posted to an online, anonymous platform. She reports that most of the girls felt pressured to comply with requests to send naked photos of themselves to boys who demanded them. Some boys collect photos of girls like playing cards, assigning value to each image. Even girls whose images are considered valuable are cheapened.